Every one of us feels, but we are not always in touch with what we are feeling and, likewise, we are often at a loss as to how to express or deliver a clear message to someone else about what it is that we are feeling. I have observed that when I make a commitment to know, face and honor my feelings, I become more aware that feelings are present. As I allow my awareness to be more prominent, I invariably discover that I have many feelings; and, also, many feelings have me.
What are feelings anyway? Where do they come from? Are feelings better or worse than thoughts? Do we dare trust our feelings? These are just a few of the many questions connected with what I call the "feeling mystique." For the sake of simplicity let us say that feelings are the stirrings within us that let us know that something (whatever) is going on inside us. Without feelings we would not be aware of our insides. So they are invaluable flows of energy that assist in triggering awareness of our aliveness. One extremely valuable way of experiencing our aliveness is through the medium of feelings.
I have observed that feelings are always present within me whether I choose to acknowledge them or not. However, if I choose not to acknowledge them, they tend to "have me." When feelings have me, I feel out of control, powerless, mistrustful, isolated and ungrounded (disconnected from my center of being). When I open myself to acknowledging the feelings within me, I immediately feel more aware, more present. I then begin to have feelings, as opposed to feelings having me. It is extremely difficult for me to take charge of my life when I have not made the commitment to be in touch with what I am feeling.
How do I let you, my communication partner, know what I am feeling? This is obviously a pivotal question in all important relationships. Another primary question I would ask is "Do I feel safe entrusting you with this degree of closeness?" If my answer is "Yes," then I can begin to explore the adventure of finding a means of translating or transmitting what is inside of me (feelings) to you. So in communicating feelings, trust of the recipient is a key ingredient in the success of the transaction.
Once I have given myself permission to trust someone, I find that my feelings appear in greater abundance and then I focus my attention on how to say what I am feeling. I have discovered that feelings cannot be adequately boxed, framed, packaged into words. Words, at best, merely approximate the content of feelings. So I begin by taking the risk to ask my communication partner to listen "to my insides" along with me as I attempt to pursue the art of translating the message of what my feelings want to convey. Any successful dialoguing of feelings requires the willing participation of both parties: "Do you hear (feel) me?" "Yes, I hear (feel) you."
Abundant Blessings,
Jim Williams
Jim Williams is an accomplished Intuitive Consultant, specializing in past lives as they relate to current life and relationship patterning. He has a true gift as a Creative Conversation Consultant assisting clients in making contact with their Soulful Self while interacting through conversation. Being a master Astrologer, with 30 years experience, he specializes in relationship readings and sheds light on deep, oftentimes hidden, issues. Known for his “healing hands” and ability to “listen” to a person’s body, he has over 35 years of healing massage body work.
Jim resides in Mt. Shasta, California and is available for private sessions (in person or by phone). Email Jim for rates and to schedule an appointment: jimbulaya@yahoo.com.
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